Written on Monday, May 5, 2008 at 5:50pm
Fashion is the topic of the day today- Been kicking around in my head for a long time- Not the design or business but more about everyday fashion; the decisions that go into what we wear and who we choose to be. I don't think there are very few people (at least that I know) that just throw some clothes on without a second look before they head out the door in the morning. Or that show up at work without feeling like they have some sort of "image" they have to uphold. It's normal-
I think people all have chosen an identity of sorts. Your identity might not be wrapped up in what you wear but it is wrapped up in something. It may be that you're the most hard core hunter of all your buddies (for all you country folk); maybe you're the sharpest business man with all the ideas during the company meetings; maybe you love being the biggest outcast. We've all chosen an identity or group that fulfills that need.
What I find funny is how many people will flat out say that outward appearance or social status means nothing to them. I hear it over and over again! That they are completely secure in who they are. I must say that in the vast majority of those conversations, the party you're talking with is in denial. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that we're all stuck on being validated outwardly but I AM saying that it matters. A little or a lot; it matters. Even you moms- you might look like a wreck but that's because you like looking like the mom that "gives it her all" and puts her kids above all else. You very well may be giving it your all but, the opinion of other moms (especially other moms), is a motivator of your behavior. Why? Because we all want to feel like we're just a little bit better or more put together than the other guy?
People who are into fashion or body image are the most obvious "offenders", if you may, but that's just because they're easy to identify. The "closet" offenders are just harder to find until you get to know them and then you find the chink in their armour. You'll find out that Jack always has to have the answer to problems. Why? Because he likes being the "MacGyver" of the group. Or there's Sara, the "friendliest"; she's always first to befriend you but the last to return your call. It's more about the contact list for her than it is about real relationship.
My point is this; we all like to feel like we're worth something; whether the looks, brains, personality, leadership, charisma, etc. We all want to stick out from the crowd somehow.
So I guess what I'm saying is that when we're hangin' out, don't act like you're completely secure in all it is you do and say you are. Just relax. Facades get old and moldy real quick. I want to know you. The dings. The dents. They're what make us unique. If we were all perfect and completely secure in ourselves, we wouldn't need friends or God for that matter-
I think people all have chosen an identity of sorts. Your identity might not be wrapped up in what you wear but it is wrapped up in something. It may be that you're the most hard core hunter of all your buddies (for all you country folk); maybe you're the sharpest business man with all the ideas during the company meetings; maybe you love being the biggest outcast. We've all chosen an identity or group that fulfills that need.
What I find funny is how many people will flat out say that outward appearance or social status means nothing to them. I hear it over and over again! That they are completely secure in who they are. I must say that in the vast majority of those conversations, the party you're talking with is in denial. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that we're all stuck on being validated outwardly but I AM saying that it matters. A little or a lot; it matters. Even you moms- you might look like a wreck but that's because you like looking like the mom that "gives it her all" and puts her kids above all else. You very well may be giving it your all but, the opinion of other moms (especially other moms), is a motivator of your behavior. Why? Because we all want to feel like we're just a little bit better or more put together than the other guy?
People who are into fashion or body image are the most obvious "offenders", if you may, but that's just because they're easy to identify. The "closet" offenders are just harder to find until you get to know them and then you find the chink in their armour. You'll find out that Jack always has to have the answer to problems. Why? Because he likes being the "MacGyver" of the group. Or there's Sara, the "friendliest"; she's always first to befriend you but the last to return your call. It's more about the contact list for her than it is about real relationship.
My point is this; we all like to feel like we're worth something; whether the looks, brains, personality, leadership, charisma, etc. We all want to stick out from the crowd somehow.
So I guess what I'm saying is that when we're hangin' out, don't act like you're completely secure in all it is you do and say you are. Just relax. Facades get old and moldy real quick. I want to know you. The dings. The dents. They're what make us unique. If we were all perfect and completely secure in ourselves, we wouldn't need friends or God for that matter-
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